The best parts of this
book:
"So take off your rose-colored glasses and throw them out the window."
"Men tend to feel at ease with a woman who doesn't care so much because then he doesn't have to be fully responsible for someone else's happiness. "
"This brings up to the definition of a marrying bitch - aka a strong, spirited woman who can stand up for herself. The bitch is not rude or abrasive because she's smart enough to know that being considerate is more effective. But she won't compromise herself to be in a relationship. She won't work overtime to 'catch a husband.''
"There's a kind of bondage that comes with being in the mainstream."
"But if you've told him you won't 'waste your time in a dead-end relationship' or that you want to be married within one year, all you've done is tell him you're someone he needs to get away from. This is why being up front and 'open' doesn't work."
"The second you put your life on hold, you become less interesting."
".. Show him how he can be your hero."
"He'll go to the ends of the earth just to have a woman make him feel revered and adored."
"By being willing to tell him, 'I'm putting it all on the line and I'm willing to walk out on comfort and security to get what it is I truly want,' he'll often feel that he needs that woman. He can't exist without her. That's when she becomes 'the one.'"
Personal anecdote:
By the time my husband came along, I was so done with the games and men and dating. I was just done with it. In order for me to consider anyone they had to meet a very strict criteria. When Seve and I tell the story to friends he always jokes, "I don't know how I made the cut!" I was 25. It was my time to have fun enjoy life. We enjoyed life together. I put my foot down when I needed to and made no exceptions when it came to what I wanted. A lot of the ideals and principles in the book came to me either by way of exasperation or accident. I just wished I had this book once I hit my teenage years. This should be a must read in the curriculum especially for high school girls. Sherry is hilarious throughout the book and she keeps you engaged with all the real life stories. There's even a section called, "Breaking Into The Boys' Club." Riveting! Get this book and a cup of tea, laugh away the afternoon and spread the joy by loaning it to a dear friend.
